Do you ever just feel “stuck”? If you do, you’re not alone. That’s exactly where I’ve been the last couple of weeks. Often, when I find myself in this situation, it’s because I’ve started doubting myself. I’ll have my clear path marked out, I’ll be making some good progress, and then wham! I’m knocked completely off the path and can’t seem to get back on it.
That has certainly been the case with my blog these last couple of weeks. I got in my own head about whether my writing style is too simplistic and if I really had any business being here in the blogosphere among *real* writers, but I finally realized a few days ago that the ability to write and speak simply is actually my gift. I’ve spent years breaking down sometimes-complex ideas into simple, actionable steps.
As I told my friend a few weeks ago, I’m not a writer, I’m a sharer. I learn something new and immediately want to share it with others. Simple may not be everyone’s cup of tea, but for some, it may be exactly what they need.
Allowing my self-doubt to tell me that I didn’t measure up, that maybe I didn’t belong here, temporarily immobilized me. Since in this case it was writing, that was no big deal, but what if it had been with something big like my wellness plan? What if I had gone backward simply because I doubted myself?
Too often, we allow self-doubt to completely sabotage us. We start to compare ourselves to others or second-guess our abilities, and the next thing we know, we’re stuck. When you live with fibromyalgia or any other chronic illness, you already have obstacles in the way of your progress; you definitely don’t need to be your own obstacle.
So what do we do when the self-doubt starts to creep in? How do we stop it before it incapacitates us? Here are a few things that may help:
- Take stock of your strengths. Sometimes just realizing how strong we are in certain areas helps us realize that our self-doubt has no basis.
- Don’t compare yourself to others. This is easier said than done, but each of us is created differently, and your life experiences have uniquely qualified you for your journey.
- Figure out one small step that you know you can take successfully, and take it. Once you’ve taken that first step, subsequent steps, even if they’re more difficult tasks, will be easier to take. Each step forward builds confidence and helps leave the doubt behind.
- Talk about it with someone you trust. Sometimes we just need to get out of our own heads, and often, once we voice our doubts, we realize things aren’t as bad as we thought.
We may all suffer from self-doubt occasionally, but we don’t have to let it sabotage us. We can deal with it before it becomes a big boulder on our path forward, and keep moving forward in our journey.
Do you ever have moments of self-doubt? What have you found most helpful for dealing with it?